7 tips on how to communicate during sex

Not every one of us is willing to talk frankly during sex. Moreover, for most people, conversations during sex seem to be something stupid or obscene. This tendency was supported by a survey focused on German men. Only half of the 11,868 respondents can comfortably talk about sex with their partner. That's what's strange, because it's the kind of heart-to-heart conversations that help you figure out what you both like, and therefore, improve the quality of your intimate life.

Here are 7 tips on how to communicate during sex:

1. Speak directly and openly

Even the most, in your opinion, simple hints can be interpreted by your partner in a different way. In this case, you run the risk of getting not exactly what you hinted. Or things absolutely opposed to it. It is better to say straight out what you want, and then sex is much more likely to be memorable.

2. Feel free to call a spade a spade

Call a penis a penis, a clitoris a clitoris. Don't be afraid to say it out loud. These are the same parts of the body as the nose or ears.

3. Respond

Sex in complete silence is a hell of a challenge. Let your partner know if you like it or not. This can be gestures, moans, or a simple phrase " Yes, keep going!". If something goes wrong and you feel uncomfortable, respond with the typical "Oops." And they will instantly understand that you are not at ease and it is better to stop.

4. Take action

It is better to just do it once than to talk about it 10 times. Take the risk of demonstrating what you want at least once. Do what you like. And ask your partner to do the same in return. However, do not forget about the appropriate response: they should know that you're into it.

5. Start small

Do not intimidate your beloved one with your wild erotic fantasies. Explain what you want, but don't do it too insistently and earnestly. Be smart about it. For example, you have long wanted to try a role-play where you are the boss and she is the secretary. Put on a suit, ask her to make you coffee and playfully ask about bringing you the documents to sign. That's how easily and naturally you share your fantasy with your partner.

6. Learn new things

Before you tell your partner about your desires, you need to explore this matter yourself. A good way is to read the relevant books. And even better, if you do it together. This may be literature related to a specific question, or just a universal guide on the topic of sex. Each evening, read a few chapters together and then discuss what you read. This will not only be a good joint hobby, but also diversify your intimate life.

7. Think about your partner

Intimate communication should come from both partners. Sexologists say that during intimacy, you have two tasks: to tell your partner about your desires and find out about their preferences. Were they faking an orgasm? Or don't they like it? There is no need to guess whether this is true or not. Watch their nonverbal reactions and, of course, talk to them during sex.

Scientists from the University of Utah proved that the more often partners talk about sex, the more satisfaction they get from their intimate life. Feel free to talk during sex. This will help you better understand what you both like and improve the overall quality of your interaction. Not only sexually, but also in everyday life.