5 tips on how not to lose sex drive after having a baby
Sex certainly matters a lot to men. And not only as a source of pleasure, but also as a tool for maintaining physical health. Scientists from the University of Pennsylvania observed their students and concluded that those who had sex 1-2 times a week and more, on average, were sick twice less often. Unlike those who did not have a regular sex life. Doctors from the medical Institute of Chicago, who have researched sex matter, compared it to push-ups. The more often you have sex, the better your physical performance becomes. For instance, your libido increases.
In general, the more sex there is in man's live, the better. However, there are objective reasons that do not allow men to lead an active intimate life, even if they badly want it. And one of these reasons is having a baby.
How to cope with the lack of time and maintain the quantity and quality of sex at the same level? Here are 5 tips to help you out:
1. Plan sex
Everything should go according to plan. Many people are afraid of this phrase, because there is no romance in scheduled sex. But planning in this case works like never before. Planned sex can be exciting. Everything will depend on how you approach this matter. By the way, sexologists believe that planned sex can save a marriage. In America, for example, 52% of couples with children plan their intimate life.
2. Help your loved one with the housework
Women are familiar with the situation: the child falls asleep, and the super mom gets into all the household chores hoping to be in time for midnight. After such a marathon, you only have enough strength to wash your face and get to bed. It is the right decision on the part of a man to help his partner with housework. And not just mindlessly persuade them to get intimate. You will spare their energy and be rewarded with great sex.
3. Maintain the sensuality of the relationship
And this should not be limited to a three-minute foreplay before sex. Kiss each other, hug each other all day long. It won't take much time. To feel happy, a person needs only 5 kisses a day and to hear "I love you" from a partner. This fact was established by numerous scientists. At least sometimes find time to be alone with each other. Maybe once a month or a week you can leave the children to their grandparents, friends, or get a nanny.
4. Talk to each other
Conversations are especially important for maintaining intimacy with your partner. Take the time, even if there is only a little, to share your thoughts. You should not ignore the problems. Sooner or later, they will pile up so much that as a result the relationship will come to an end. Family psychologists believe that it is important to tell your other half about the existing problems in the right way. However, you need to talk not about their mistakes but about your experiences and feelings. Otherwise, your partner could think that they are being attacked and turn on a defence mechanism.
5. Be smart
Who said you can only have sex in the bedroom? There are many other places. Did the baby fall asleep in your bed? Go to the bathroom or maybe see what is like on the kitchen table. Do not forget about short sex and do not ignore it: that will bring as much satisfaction as an hour-long sex marathon. And if the children are already older, be sure to teach them to give you space. And knock before entering the room.
It's stupid to put an end to your intimate life after the birth of children. You need to do exactly the opposite: do it as often as possible, inventing new ways to enjoy each other and choosing unusual and quirky places for it. Then sex will become even better.
