4 tips on how respectfully decline sex
Many people think that men need sex every day. But as for women, they are the ones with a constant "headache". In real life, men also have moments when they do not want sex. And it's not about health problems.
According to statistics, 62% of men are more likely to refuse sex than women. French scientists have proved that the lack of intimate life leads to psychological disorders and physical illnesses that provoke early death in men.
Here are the reasons for the lack of sexual desire:
Intense physical activity
A recent study published in the American journal of Medicine&Science in Sports&Exercise revealed that intense training (for example, while preparing for a marathon) reduces libido. Scientists believe that this pattern is related to a decrease in the production of testosterone. Our body is designed so that during active energy losses, it begins to save "fuel". Since it takes a lot of energy to conceive a child, the production of the main male hormone is also reduced. That is, the body postpones this process until better times. Scientists recommend taking more rest between workouts, as well as taking a test to determine the level of testosterone.
Desire to fulfill career ambitions
Men who devote all their time to work sublimate their libido in moving up the career ladder. That is the conclusion of Sidney Seruto, Ph. D. and neuropsychologist. The desire for money, recognition, and power replaces their desire to have sex. If your job is also your first priority, the neuropsychologist advises you to re-evaluate your priorities. After all, regular sex life is important for a man's health.
Stress
In stressful situations, the body increases cortisol levels. Cortisol is a catabolic hormone. It is responsible for the breakdown of substances. Unlike testosterone, which synthesizes substances in the male body. Testosterone also affects men's libido. Increased cortisol levels block the action of testosterone. And the male libido simply fades away. The only way out is to reduce the impact of stress. Regular sports and meditation will help you out.
What if they want you and you can't reciprocate? Here are 4 best ways to let your partner down easy:
1. Suggest something other than intercourse
How about oral sex or giving pleasure with your tongue? If you are not feeling like having sex at all, you can find another way to spend time that is not related to sex: go see a movie or to the restaurant, go for a walk in the park, cook dinner together. The main thing is that you spend time together. After all, relationships should not be limited only to making love.
2. Tell the truth
Be honest with them if you are interested in a long and happy relationship. It is better to openly admit why you do not want sex. You are tired at work or there is some other reason-they should know about it. Texting and canceling a date isn't the best idea. So your partner will think that you have found a replacement or are avoiding them.
3. Put off sex until tomorrow
Let your partner know that your lack of desire is temporary. That you just need to relax and rest, and tomorrow mind-blowing sex will be waiting for them.
4. Make it clear that you love them
Even if you are very tired, spend some time with your loved one: kiss, hug and say a few nice words. Some may be very sensitive to the lack of tenderness and romance. A refusal to have sex may be perceived as a sign that you have stopped loving them.
So, maintained sex life is the key to the healthy functioning of the male body. Sigmund Freud also called libido the main vital energy. So do not deny yourself this pleasure and have sex as often as possible. If sometimes you don't want to have sex for whatever reason, tell your partner frankly about it. We hope our tips will lend you a hand in this regard.
