3 types of sex that require preparation

Attempting to diversify their sex lives, couples tend to resort to various experiments. However, the lack of necessary knowledge and simple preparation results in no sexual pleasure whatsoever and does not meet the expectations placed on it. To avoid all the disappointment, you got to keep in mind what kinds of sex you need to prepare for.

1. Anal sex

According to the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction, only 40% of men and 35% of women have had anal sex at least once in their lives. Anal sex scenes in porn movies have ingrained the idea that this type of sex is always sterile and pain-free and almost no different from vaginal penetration. In fact, this is not the case. Anal sex requires special preparation if you want everything to go smoothly bringing maximum pleasure for both partners.

Here's what to do:

• Your partner or you should use an enema or anal douche for a deep, comprehensive clean. This procedure will clean the intestines and insure avoiding uncomfortable feelings during sex. But you cannot do colon cleanses often, otherwise the body will lose the ability to do it in a natural way. Therefore, you should practice anal sex no more than once a week.
• Have anal sex only with a condom. The main danger of this kind of sex is the infection transmission. After all, bacteria live in the rectum, which can cause inflammation if they enter the urethra or vagina. Even if both partners are monogamous and undergo regular tests, a condom use is still necessary.
• Use a lubricant. Apply it not only on the condom, but also on the edge of the anal orifice. It is better to opt for water-based lubricants, as oil-based lubricants can destroy latex. Water-based lubricants dry quickly, so don't forget to lubricate the condom more often. This way you won't hurt your partner or injure them. Saving up and using regular body lotion instead of lube is no brilliant idea. Creams and lotions are quickly absorbed, and therefore rubbing can cause injuries of the the anal canal.
• Start the sex carefully. First, you need to stretch the anal opening with your fingers or sex toys (anal plugs). And only after that, you can proceed to the penetration. Do not get carried away and go all in with active frictions. This can lead to cracks in the anal opening.

2. Shibari

This is one of the BDSM practices that involves tying the partner with ropes. The origin of shibari refers to the ancient Japanese martial technique of binding hojo-jutsu. And only in the middle of the 20th century, the Japanese adapted this technique for the pleasures. By the way, the process of binding takes quite a while, so shibari can be considered a kind of a foreplay.

To tie up your partner safely and hot at the same time, follow the guidelines below:

• Before you start, study the places on our body where the veins are located close to the skin and where the nerve and lymph nodes are located. Do not place the ropes in those places. Also, take care of the delicate and sensitive areas – the nipples and genitals.
• Use only special ropes from the sex stores. They do not inflict pain and do not leave marks on the skin. For beginners, one long rope is enough. But in general, experts recommend getting a set of 5 ropes, 8 metres long. Ropes 2 and 3 meters long will only be enough to tie the hands and feet. If you have learned the basic binding technique and want to move on to hanging your partner or tying them to the bed, you may need 7 to 9 ropes. Also, you should not use ropes with defects. Or cut them in that spot.
• Tying up should begin with the legs and arms. Consider the flexibility of your partner, as well as the positions in which you plan to have sex. And keep in mind that the safety of the process is above all else.

3. Threesome sex

In a survey conducted by scientists from the University of Wisconsin and the University of New Brunswick, it was found that 81% of men fantasized about threesome sex and eager to try it. Among women, there were much fewer willing to give threesome a try – only 31%. And only 12% of all respondents engaged in this kind of sex before.

Threesome can be safe and not hurt your relationship, if you stick to the following rules:

• Tell your partner what you want. Be prepared for the fact that your partner will only agree to the threesome including two men for example. And if you are not on board, you will look rather selfish. Therefore, think in advance about what you are willing to agree to for the sake of fulfilling your fantasy and possible consequences.
• Once again, evaluate the risks and complications of a threesome. The whole thing can be a real challenge for the couple. You are letting a third person into your relationship. This can lead to jealousy and a desire to compete.
• If your partner agreed, and you decided to give it a try, find a third person in apps designed for this kind of stuff. Ask your significant other to help you find and choose that person. Before sex, make sure to arrange a meeting with the chosen candidate to evaluate them face-to-face.
• Try to simulate a threesome with the help of sex toys. Look up positions with double penetration with sex toys. This way you won't put your relationship at risk by having a third person in your bed.

Sure thing the above mentioned sex helps to spice up your relationships. But if for some reason that is not accessible to you, or you are simply not ready for it, there are many other ways to diversify your sex life. Try sex in new places, watch adult movies, get yourself some sex toys.